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Okay, I only recently heard this story.
I think the most shocking part of this story is the attitude of these girls. There is absolutely no remorse! I couldn’t decide whether to laugh or cry. I would tell you what I think of this, but I’m not sure I have a rant that is appropriate.
Can you believe this?
Do you ever lose your book?
I’m always losing my book and it drives me mad! I only have a few chapters left. I know I fell asleep reading it on the couch last night. Now where could it have disappeared to?
I could always start another book, but it’s simply maddening to not be able to put my hands on my book.
Ah well. Maybe I’ll find it. Just after my blood pressure skyrockets through the ceiling.
By the way, I’m reading All Things Wise and Wonderful, by James Herriot. Good stuff. Who would have guessed I’d be interested in a Yorkshire vet from the 1930′s? Not me. But it’s seriously good reading.
Update: Yay! I found it. Looks like one of the kiddos reshelved it! I would never have guessed someone would put it where it belonged!
Looking through bloggyville tonight, I came across something that upset me tremendously! Some mysterious blogger, that I shall protect, not because of their innocence but just because I’m nice, has a big picture of my daughter drinking rain on his/her blog. (I say his/her because it’s a foreign blog and I couldn’t read any of it!) Oh….unhappy was I! My hubby edited the picture on the site with a watermark proclaiming the person a thief.
Have I mentioned before that my hubby is cool like that?
Don’t mess with me. I married a nerd.
Anyway, all annoyance aside, I’m headed off on a camping trip tomorrow morning. The forecast calls for four days of scattered and isolated thunderstorms. I think we may be nuts. I have camped in the rain, and even storms before. But never with five kids, one a mere eight months old.
But we go.
See you next week!
The innocent and the beautiful Have no enemy but time.
~William Butler Yeates
I’m not so sure that time is the only enemy to innocence any longer….
“You’re so innocent!” I distinctly remember being told by some adolescent peer in high school. Oh, the condescending tone. It was obvious to me that innocence was not something I should have. I must admit to poking fun at a particular friend of mine for a similar reason. Somehow, being a bit more world wise seemed a good thing to flaunt over her at the time.
When I think of the peer pressure, the media, and the influences around when I was growing up, and how destructive they were to me, I get cold chills thinking about what is going to be around for my kids. How much of what they are exposed to is geared at stealing away their innocence. That aura around childhood that seems to disappear at younger ages all the time.
Now, as a mother, innocence is something I want my children to hold on to, for as long as possible. The thought of someone calling my daughter innocent in that same tone is enough to bring out my mother bear instincts and want me to tear into the other person. Of course she’s innocent. She should be innocent! She’s nine.
Yet, being involved with children on a regular basis tells me that this is a stage that leaves children at younger ages all the time. I teach six, seven and eight year olds (between my job as a first grade teacher and my second grade boys Sunday school class). I see world wise written all over many of these kids. Just the other day, in church I had to stop a discussion about the movies the kids have been viewing. It had turned into a contest to see who had watched the most “taboo” movies. And this was in Sunday School!!
One of the decisions my husband and I have made is to keep our kids away from some of the exposure to the things this world has to offer. We do not have outside television in our home (no cable, no antenna). Our kids don’t attend many birthday parties for kids. They can only go home with children whose parents we know well (and trust to make similar decisions about music, television viewing, video games and computer time that we would).
We have been considered prudish. Others have implied or right out said that our children are overprotected and will not be prepared for the “real world”. I roll my eyes at this idea….the idea that keeping children children, and protecting their innocence is not preparing them for the real world. And that somehow, exposing our kids to more language, violence, sex, disrespect for parents and other authorities is somehow better preparing them for life.
One of the things about our culture that hurts me the most is the way children are constantly exposed to, and involved in experiences that steal away their childhood. And one of the things that I believe we as Christian parents should do, is help our kids hold on to their innocence as long as possible.
They don’t stay little forever. They grow up too fast. We’ve all heard it. We’ve all thought it.
I watch my newborn daughter and as she adds the pounds and begins staying awake for larger parts of the day and it crosses my mind. She’s already growing up. My oldest daughter will soon be nine and it seems only yesterday I held her in my arms, desperately trying to get her to sleep in the wee sma’s while she cut teeth. My son already has female admirers in his kindergarten class. I would like to have a chat with these girls. Don’t they know he is mine? They are just gonna have to wait!
And yet it’s more than just our imaginations at work. Our kids really are growing up too fast. I’ve been watching it in public schools. Girls as young as eight wearing Pl@yboy bunny t-shirts, pants with sexy or hottie written across thier bottoms. Kids in elementary school discussing sex, singing songs that make me blush to think of, saying things I was embarrassed to tell my husband or mother about.
Does this mean they are becoming more responsible? Making more sacrifices? Being more generous? Showing more compassion? Falling more in love with Christ? All those characters and attributes we desire to see in our children? I think not.
Several published studies have found, for instance, that some tweens’ bodies are developing faster, with more girls starting menstruation in elementary school — a result doctors often attribute to improved nutrition and, in some cases, obesity. While boys are still being studied, the findings about girls have caused some endocrinologists to lower the limits of early breast development to first or second grade.
Along with that, even young children are having to deal with peer pressure and other societal influences.
Beyond the drugs, sex and rock’n'roll their boomer and Gen X parents navigated, technology and consumerism have accelerated the pace of life, giving kids easy access to influences that may or may not be parent-approved. Sex, violence and foul language that used to be relegated to late-night viewing and R-rated movies are expected fixtures in everyday TV.
Kids look and dress older. They struggle to process the images of sex, violence and adult humor, even when their parents try to shield them. And sometimes, he says, parents end up encouraging the behavior by failing to set limits — in essence, handing over power to their kids.
But as the limits have been pushed, experts say the stakes also have gotten higher — with parents and tweens having to deal with very grown-up issues such as pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Earlier this year, that point hit home when federal officials recommended a vaccine for HPV — a common STD that can lead to cervical cancer — for girls as young as age 9.
I’m terribly afraid for my children, growing up in our culture at times. I do the best I can to protect my children from some of this without just starting a family-only commune in a bunker somewhere in New Mexico. Locking the door and throwing away the key after stocking the thing to provide for us for the next 200 years…..We don’t watch television. My kids don’t go over to the homes of people I don’t know very well. They do not use a computer without strict adult supervision. No telephones or televisions in their rooms. But there is only so much you can do….
As it is, most parents of children tend to think I’m a bit on the prudish side when it comes to how I’m raising my children. Which, doesn’t bother me in the least. I know my children are still exposed to more than I was as a child. Much more than my parents or grandparents were exposed to. And sometimes I shudder to think what the cost is going to be.
All I can think to do is pray. Pray hard. Pray often.
Do you see this trend affecting the kids in your home?
How are you protecting your children? What are you doing to combat this overwhelming force that our culture can be? Do you have any advice? Are you a prudish mother/father? Depriving your children of violent television and video games? Refusing to buy them a cell phone? Not allowing them to wear the miniskirt or let three inches of their boxers show above their pants? Invading their privacy by monitoring their internet use? Making them use the phone in the living room or kitchen where you might hear what they have to say?
Meanie! I’d love to hear about it!
What’s up with the spinach? Why are people just now getting sick from it? I don’t get it.
I do know that if it was available to buy now, I’d probably go get some! I was very upset at Subway for not having any today! I guess it’s good that others are watching out for me (by not selling it!)!
I love spinach!
I Think It’s Cute How You Think I’m Listening
Well, that’s what the girl’s t-shirt said today. A girl about six or seven, in line with her mother at MacAlister’s, where I ate lunch.
Sadly, I noticed the mother saying over and over, “You are not listening!” and “Listen to me!” She repeated directions over and over and basically stayed on the girl’s case the entire time I was in the restaraunt. I was rather relieved when they left.
Hrmmmm….wonder if the mother considered she might be endorsing not listening when she bought the t-shirt? Or allowed her to wear it. I dunno….
(Alright, I’m not even close to the perfect mother! Sorry for the judgemental post. Just felt like a rant.)
Posted by Bethany in Rants and Raves, The Great Game of Basketball and Other Mediocre Sports on September 25, 2005
I’ve tried to contain my obsession with the Spurs and keep that bit of my life minimalized on my blog. I figure I’ve done a pretty good job of it and should be able to do so at least until the play-offs start. Then I must warn you guys…I shall be in full Spurs mode. And it’s not always pretty!
It seems that David Robinson is being sued by Major League Baseball….
The Christian school he founded has a logo similar to one used by the California Angels in the past.
Why does this annoy me so?
I get really annoyed at our sue-happy culture…the logos aren’t the same, they are similar. What’s the big deal. The team doesn’t even use the similar logo anymore!
And I’m a die hard fan of the Spurs, and the Admiral is a former player as well as current part owner of that team….
and die hard fans always stick with their man, right?
I also admire David Robinson for many reasons that have nothing to do with basketball. He was more than willing to discuss this problem with the MLB.
This Brad Paisley song comes to mind. I’d like to dedicate it to the MLB…
Go on keep trying
Come on keep calling
You know I like it
When you come crawling
Its like music
To hear you bawling
Waa, waa, waa, waa, waa
Grrrr….. I’m really, really annoyed about this! Maybe I am biased…but, o well.
I’ve been thinking about doing this for awhile now. I’ve noticed as a teacher there are some interesting t-shirts that parents buy their children. Some just blow my mind. I’m not going to cite many examples just yet as I don’t want to give away future posts…but there are some unbelievable things on t-shirts worn by children.
Here’s a great example. This girl I saw at Six Flags has a Pl*yb*y bunny on her t-shirt. I cannot imagine letting my child wear this shirt. It infuriates me.
Incidently, I had a second grader wear this exact shirt to school one day last year. I made her wear her jacket zipped up all day even though it was quite warm.
So what do you think? Is anyone else annoyed at current t-shirt trends for children?
Posted by Bethany in Rants and Raves, The Great Game of Basketball and Other Mediocre Sports on August 2, 2005
…the more my price goes up!
This quote is from the song “Celebrity”. And I happen to find it particularly interesting.
I love sports. I am a former basketball player and a current fan of the sport. My favorite team just so happens to be, the current World Champions, The San Antonio Spurs.
I became a fan after reading about the former Spurs player, David Robinson. I truly admired him and the way he lived his life…regardless of his celebrity status. It just so happened that they won the NBA Championship that year. This made me a rather passionate fan!
Over the last several years, I have watched the Spurs as only a true, dedicated fan should. I really like the attitude of the team. I feel it is a hold over from David Robinson’s Christian influence on the team. But the Spurs have to be one of the few teams in professional sports that have so many team members with such character! I love to hear the Spurs interview. No whining about officiating. No “I’m all that” attitude…even by the biggest stars on the team. No jealousy between the players. No fighting amongst themselves. Lots of humility.
Well, lucky for this die-hard fan, the Spurs won the Championship again this year. (Lucky for me because I go through mild depression whenever they are put out of the play-offs!) So after they win I run with haste to Barnes and Noble to purchase all the commerative magazines. Or actually, any magazine that spotlights this awesome moment.
To my great disdain, no wonderful cover stories could be found. I had decided that in my eagerness I had not given proper time to print and distribute the materials. So I check back. Nothing. Then again. Nothing. I am completely heartbroken. I want to see this team bask in their well deserved glory. I want to read each detail from every player from the MVP to the benchwarmers. I want my magazine.
Well…I have no magazine. My mother has ordered the Sports Illustrated Special Edition but I haven’t seen it yet. And it’s been almost an entire summer. I’ve almost forgotten about it. It just keeps popping up on occasion.
So…I complain. To my boyfriend. “Why, oh, why do they not have 7 gazillion magazines about the Spurs? The Laker’s could always be found plastered all over every sports magazine three days after they won. Heck, they get plastered on magazines for losing! I don’t get it!”
So, he answers with the above quote from one of my favorite country music artists, Brad Paisly.
The more they run my name down, the more my price goes up!
I have decided that the reason I love the Spurs is the very reason I cannot find a decent magazine article about their play-off season. Their name has not been run down. I mean, really, who wants to read about a bunch of guys who just enjoy playing basketball, stay married to one woman, and have their children in wed-lock. Oh yeah…and they haven’t been accused of raping or beating any women. I guess it’s just not that interesting.